The Art of Being Chosen
Why You Don’t Have to Chase What’s Aligned
There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from chasing.
Whether it be love, opportunities, clarity, or validation.
Many of us were taught that if we wanted something badly enough, we had to pursue it relentlessly. Push harder. Prove ourselves. Perform.
However, nature offers another lesson.
Flowers do not chase bees.
They bloom within their ecosystem.
They root deeply, open fully, and trust that what is aligned will be drawn to their fragrance.
And perhaps this is the lesson May will bring:
Not everything meant for you requires pursuit.
Some things require presence.
Psychologically, many of us chase because unpredictability trained us to. We learned love through inconsistency. We learned approval through performance. We learned attention through over-compensation.
So, stillness feels risky, softness feels passive, and rest feels unproductive.
But chasing these things often creates attachment to outcomes rather than trust in alignment.
There is power in becoming so deeply rooted in your own worth that you stop auditioning for spaces that should recognize your value naturally.
Being chosen does not mean being passive.
It means discerning.
It means asking:
Is this mutual?
Is this aligned?
Is this requiring me to over-function?
Flowers do not contort themselves to become more attractive to bees.
They bloom according to their design.
And what is meant to nourish them comes close.
Reflection
Where in my life am I chasing instead of allowing alignment?
What would change if I trusted that what is meant for me can recognize me?
How can I focus on blooming instead of proving?
