The Ivy Way: Upward Growth
Did you figure out which plant you most identified with? If you did not, please visit my previous blog titled “The Way of The Cacti”. In it, we discussed the following plants and likened them to various mental states: Vines (erratic & in need of boundaries), Bushes (in the maintenance phase & just need guidance from time to time), Roses (living in constant change, always learning, growing, & shedding as needed), and Dandelion Seed Heads (not grounded, pulled in every direction by others).
Do It For The Vine (I ain’t gone do it…)
This week is for the vines. Scientific names include: pothos (money plant or devil’s ivy), heartleaf philodendron, and syngonium (arrowhead vine). Once vines find the right balance of indirect sunlight and minimal watering, this plant will climb its way upward by sprouting aerial roots or clinging to trellises, shelves, or other supports. Simply put, they grow where they want, land where they must, and attach themselves where they see fit. There are usually no issues if the space to grow and proper support are provided.
The Downside To Upward Growth
Vines will often form attachments to others quickly. An example of this behavior is oversharing personal information with others. Vines have a habit of taking on excessive responsibility, then feeling guilty when letting others down (overpromising then underdelivering). Vines may also have unpredictable mood swings to others. However, emotional outbursts could be directly related to constantly having limits pushed.
How To Self-Prune
Healthy growth requires that you meet your own needs first. Take the time to learn what works for you and stick with it. Also, do not confuse needs and wants. Lastly, learn your triggers, so you are not tempted by the dopamine quick fix that people pleasing provides. That is the equivalent of eating what you crave while sacrificing nutrition. Make yourself a priority, then you will eat and grow without lack.
